I saw dating as a learning experience, and the idea of going to Pizza Express with a bloke I met at a house party before going home to shag him in his shared house? Dating much older men wasn’t purely perfect, and I would never pretend as much.
But when I look back at the relationships I was in before I settled down, I believe firmly that the negative aspects weren’t anything to do with our respective ages.
I liked the safety that came with going to dinner with someone who would choose the restaurant, tell me what time we were going to meet and carry on a conversation about the world around me.
doing his A-Levels when I was in year five, at University when I was finishing Primary school and when he got engaged to his first wife I was doing my AS levels. From school, where I would form adoring romantic attachments to members of the teaching staff while my friends lusted over Justin Bieber, to my gap year, where everyone else took off around the world and shagged surf instructors while I stayed in London, going to restaurants and concerts with men who were old enough to be my father.
He had a mortgage, a car and a career before I was even born.
It would be the same if I’d only had relationships within my own age range.
The only difference is that I got to be taken advantage of at nice restaurants, smart hotels, and the theatre.
At its best, being with someone who is older than you is an education for both of you.
The key is not to get involved with a person who thinks they own you, or are superior to you, just because they were born earlier.He will listen to what you have to say, so do not waste this opportunity to share your experiences with him.Should I be worried if my boyfriend is 10 years older than me? In fact, an older man is more sensitive to your feelings.People can be selfish, struggle with commitment or refuse to communicate properly however old they are.My long term relationship was a very mixed bag for all sorts of reasons, but the age gap wasn’t one of them.I have no patience with the oft quoted theory that ‘boys mature slower than girls.’ It’s not true.