You can’t let these nasty thoughts of your partner going back to their ex.Sure they share a kid, but having children does not guarantee a healthy marriage.If you trust them enough (see rule #1), you can get into details about your fears. Let them reassure you that it’s OK and you can still go on dates.
Our dating experts have prepared a special issue about dating someone with kids, mapping the advantages and disadvantages of such relationships. Don’t freak out though, dating someone with kids is not as bad as it sounds in the first place. Our advice goes deep and takes you step-by-step from flirting to dating someone with kids and having a more serious relationship with them.
You will see that love always prevails so don’t be scared.
If you are dating someone with kids older than 10 years old, then you have to remember that they are going through their teen phase when things are uncertain. If they show some kind of disrespect, don’t take it personally. Even if they like you, they need to see strong evidence that you are “cool” enough for them. Competing with the real mother or father of the kids never ends well.
They have a huge advantage, so what’s the point of trying to compete with them? It’s not a competition where you need to show what a great mother you would be if it was you in the first place.
Realize that he is now yours and nothing will change this.
Open communication and honesty is key when dating someone with kids. Tell your partner how you feel about them having children with another person.
Even when they come over and stay with you, don’t fall into the trap of being called “mom”.
It will get you in a danger zone with really awkward circumstances in front of you. They are not sure about what’s going on and they often reach dead ends.
Since you’ve learned that you don’t have to compete when dating someone with kids, the next logical step is to learn to share his or her time.
Since the person you love has children, you need to accept that he or she needs to spend some quality time with them.
Kids needs to know that they only have one mother, and that’s not you.