I think most women can’t help trying to control their husbands – the irony is that they are increasingly miserable and insecure if they succeed.
No matter what I wanted, she was keeping the baby, and she told me I was going to pay child support. She is close to double what she should weight, because of that we don’t have sex and we are together only for the kids. Her mother is a fat cow as is her sister, all three are 200 pounds plus. I could pay child support for 18 years or help raise a boy to be a man, which I did. One day at home, I saw my checking account was a bit on the low side, so I took $10,000 out of savings and put in into the checking account.
I thought to myself that maybe this was how it was supposed to be. I now have 3 sons by her, whom I love and I am proud of. I was away for 6 weeks, and I had been to another site for 3 weeks, so for almost 3 months I was gone close to 80% of the time.
SHE DONES’T GET TO PULL A MARRIAGE BATE AND SWITCH ON YOU AND YOU HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT. This is common exclamation from men to others, but it tends to fall on deaf ears and lacks a proper punch – no matter how bold the font. but mentioning the CONTRACT elevates the argument to more than a personal opinion, based on your ( one ) personal experience. Countless wannabe brides, simps and blue-pill men everywhere will tend to argue is less refutable, and instantly DE-romanticizes it. Talking about the marriage contract has the emotional effect of ripping the bouquet out of her hand, stomping on it, pouring ketchup on her Vera Wang dress, unzipping your fly and relieving yourself on the cake – shattering all romantic illusions – and denies the bride her emotional masturbation ritual in front of 1872647164 of her Facebook “friends” and family.
But, when you replace the term “get married” ( or the word “marriage”) with “marriage CONTRACT”, you’ll find you’ll need to say very little else. They don’t like talking about “the marriage contract” at all.
instead of trying to talk him OUT of it, try a reverse approach. Agree and amplify: “YOU’RE SIGNING A MARRIAGE CONTRACT?? I’M SURE YOUR UNICORN IS THAT PERFECT UNICORN DIAMOND IN A MOUNTAIN OF RUBBLE. Lock eye contact with him for several seconds, and then simply walk away. Three times as effective in front of others, including the bride. Best part is, nobody can nail you for it, because you just enthusiastically “congratulated” him.
Now you have permanently planted the seed in his mind, equal to pulling the pin on a hand grenade and gently setting it down in the middle of the table. No man should ever sign a marriage contract to a woman who HATES him enough to actually let him go through with it.
Mention the contract (or even a prenup) and she gets very uncomfortable.
You also outline terms of a pre-nuptual agreement, which is virtual (and legal) toilet paper anyway, and can be thrown out by a judge on a whim.
IF YOU WERE LUCKLY ENOUGH TO GET IT 14 TIMES A WEEK BEFORE THE MARRIAGE, YOU GET IT AT LEAST 14 TIMES A WEEK DURING THE MARRIAGE. SHE DOES NOT GET TO PUT ON 30 POUNDS AND TELL YOU THAT YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT HER AS SHE IS FOR BETTER OR WORSE. THE OVER WEIGHT PARTY HAS 90 DAYS TO CORRECT THE WEIGHT PROBLEM, IF STILL IN VIOLATION, IT IS DIVORCE COURT.
JUST BECAUSE NOW THERE IS A RING ON HER FINGER HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW HER VAGINA WORKS. YOU DIDN’T MARRY THE ASEXUAL 30 POUND OVERWEIGHT WOMAN! 6) IF SHE DOES NOT AGREE TO THE TERMS ABOVE, THEN WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU ABOUT HER? YOU WANT THE GIRL YOU MARRIED IN BED WITH YOU, NOT A 30-40 POUND OVER WEIGHT APPROXIMATION OF THE GIRL YOU MARRIED IN BED WITH YOU. The legal issue is far less debatable, and more easily understood.
But what if a man wrote his OWN “marriage contract”? What if every man took the time to write out all of terms of a “marriage”, included everything he expects from his bride while holding nothing back? Perhaps more importantly, applying a little psychology goes a long way here.