Another guy I saw composed exquisite poetry, but was a nightmare at social functions since he'd sidestep the small talk and immediately launch into a dissertation on Dante's The Divine Comedy.
I'd prepped him for this, but he promptly informed her that "holy was out; happy was in." Spiritual enrichment, or any type of enrichment for that matter, did not exist in his world.
He'd rather practice his golf swing than ruminate about the meaning of life.
What happens when they become, dare I say it, unrealistic? Those are the people who have given up on life—given up on their dreams.
No, you do not want to become If you're a Christian, this burden of not settling carries an extra weight because settling is seen as indirectly proportional to faith.
He was out there, and when I finally met him, our relationship would be electric. "Oops," Eric said to me the first time I met him, looking down at his fly, which was open.
"Looks like the horse is out of the barn." I laughed, and we talked some more, but I wasn't exactly dying to give him my number. Even so, I figured it wouldn't hurt to go out with him a few times and have some fun while scouting out the real deal. I was conflicted all the way; my checklist was still there, waiting for me to get real and move on.
or many of my single years, I had a lengthy checklist of what my dream guy should be like: Tall, sophisticated, would sweep me off my feet by reciting lines from Walt Whitman.
A natural philosopher and die-hard romantic, my husband-to-be would enjoy deep conversations about the meaning of life while gazing at me with those piercing brown eyes.
The common Christian narrative claims that true faith exists when we settle for nothing less than "God's best for us." However, pinpointing what exactly that is can be a bit tricky sometimes, and I would argue that even for non-Christians, what we think we want and need is not always what's best for us.
In fact, holding too tightly to an idea of what our lives should look like can often be debilitating and actually keep us from finding happiness.
My checklist was always in my mind's eye when I sized guys up.