Do you even expect a man to ask you to marry him when you've been sleeping in his house for over a year?
It is even hard to see lovers holding hand in a Kampala street yet they do exist, so I can’t expect any of those people to even accept a public marriage proposal,” said Gray.
Take 26-year-old Mildred Kansiime, for example, who is getting married in September; her fiancé suggested marriage but did not pop the question.
Women in the city are becoming educated and expecting more from their men and their relationships.
Their standards are high, and ordinary men are failing to reach them.
For women however, 25 is the coming of age time when women are supposed to have their studies and careers settled so they can get married and start a family.
This is a wide gap and doesn’t appear to leave much room for interpretation.
Although a few brave have stammered or sweated on one knee in Uganda to propose, Kansiime maintained that men abstractly propose with statements like: ‘I didn't like so and so's cake.
We should get a better caterer for our wedding’ or ‘Which colour would you choose for a dress?
” Sylvia however, says “I don’t want a man that is ambitious. But if my husband does not allow me to work, I will surely not stay with him.
I won’t put up with that.” Once a couple has decided to marry, they plan an ‘introduction,’ which is the equivalent to an engagement party in America.
Aggie humorously mentions that she wants a man who will stay home and cook while she is at work.