Consider indoor rock climbing, cooking a meal together, volunteering together or visiting the local animal shelter.
“Getting drinks or doing dinner and a movie prevent a lot of natural conversation,” says Jessica, a graduate of Rowan University.
This can be the hardest thing to do, but after you’ve been dating someone for a bit, getting into deep conversations will keep you much more interested in the relationship than just having small talk all the time.
“If you go on more of an active date, there is a greater need for communication.
Those activities require conversation to progress the date.” Once you start talking, you may begin to feel more comfortable around the other person.
You are simply not comfortable going up to men and asking them out on a date.
These should be hobbies that you enjoy doing in your spare time. You could also add volunteering as a favorite hobby.
But, reality check: Dating isn’t always easy, especially for quiet women.
Shy people can’t always walk up to someone and strike up a conversation.
The other ways mentioned above are improvements to who you are and meant to help you to attract men. If you can’t be yourself, he'll notice it immediately.
If you like to laugh, share a little of your humor.
Emily, a senior at Pace University says, “Start with what's around you, like things you can both comment on.
For example, comment on the food you ordered if you’re at a restaurant, or maybe make a comment about a billboard you pass by for a movie.” Little comments like these create avenues for topics of conversation.
Though it can be tedious, asking your crush things like where they go to school, what their major is, if they play/watch sports and what their favorite kind of music is, is actually important.