Now that I'm "available," I'm wondering what are some good guidelines in searching for Mr. The following questions are an effective manner to think about my relationship and the potential problems. What is my main reason or reasons for marrying this particular person? Am I afraid that if I do not marry this person I will have a hard time finding someone else to marry? Is my main motivation in marrying this person because of a strong feeling of physical attraction? How can I be certain that my strong feelings are really love and not merely infatuation? Do I have any ulterior motives for marrying this person (such as money or status)? In what ways might I be mistaken about the real personality and attitudes of this person? Is it possible that my intended marriage might be a rebellion against my parents?
and have been out of the dating scene for a few years. There a lot of factors to consider, and unfortunately, with the divorce rate running over 50 percent, it seems that many people are not asking the right questions. Does my potential spouse have any ulterior motives? In reality, will this marriage increase or decrease my problems? Are I getting married to solve my own personal problems? If yes, how certain am I that this marriage will solve those problems? What role does the marriage of my friends play in my wanting to get married right now? What am I gaining by marrying this particular person? What am I losing out by marrying this particular person? Do I think that my potential spouse might be painting an unrealistic picture of him or herself and that I might be marrying an illusion? Does my physical attraction for my potential spouse prevent me from being aware of problems which may cause difficulties later?
If my family is wealthier than my potential spouse's family, do I think that he might be interested in me because of my money? Consider in what ways my potential spouse might differ with my opinions and habits concerning financial matters.
What will I do if my potential spouse becomes more involved in his or her religion? How will my potential spouse react if I become more involved in my religion? Is it important for me to observe any Jewish holidays?
Maybe I don’t want to get grinded on at an Old K party, or shiver outside of an NCA pretending to flirt with that grungy looking dude from my intro philosophy class!
Lord knows how well Friendsy went, and I don’t want to talk to you if you have Tinder downloaded for Gambier.
Does my potential spouse wish to observe any of his or her non-Jewish holidays?
Would my potential spouse wish to have any symbols of another religion in our home?
While you could turn this into a fun party game if you're hanging out with a bunch of other singles, you could also use a list of dating questions like this to get to know someone you're already interested in but don't know that well.
Quiz your date when you first get together for coffee or dinner and let the conversation flow from there.
Are there any religious practices of my potential spouse that bother me? Do I have any religious practices that bother my potential spouse? If I have a boy, would I want him to be circumcised?
If my potential spouse is a Christian, will he or she insist on baptism? * * * How Much Do I Value Being Part of the Jewish People? Do I consider Jewishness an important part of my identity? What would my reaction be if I personally were safe, but the rest of the Jewish people were in danger of perishing? If someone tried to force me to convert to another religion, how would I react? Do I feel proud when I hear about the achievements of other Jews?
If I am not willing to convert to my potential spouse's religion, how can I ask him or her to convert to my religion?