Even high-strung people often think they’re ‘laid-back.’ Find something more descriptive.” Other common terms to be avoided: “cool,” “awesome,” “funny.” “Nearly everyone ‘loves to laugh’ and ‘enjoys fun.’ None of that sets you apart. “Put yourself into a potential date's shoes on this one. ’ Blech—that conversation is a total wipeout.” A better alternative, she explains, is telling stories.
Instead of saying, ‘I’m witty,’” Robinson suggests, “say, ‘I’m one part Ricky Gervais, one part Jon Stewart, and a soupcon of Fred Flintstone.’ That paints a more vivid picture.” I like surfing, reading, swimming, jogging, and cooking. If you saw a list like this on a cute girl’s profile, how would you possibly respond? “ ‘Last summer, I went surfing at the Jersey Shore nearly every day with my dog Rufus. Buy me a beer, and I’ll tell you more.’ Something like that gives a date plenty to want to talk to you about—plus you sound like an active, interesting person, not just a list of gerunds.” Don’t stretch the truth, even on minor details.
It’s not about the inch or two; it’s a sense that you’re insecure enough to be lying.
You shoot yourself in the foot immediately.” NEXT: What could possibly be worse than lying?
While many of said online matchmaking entities equate “attraction” with a mathematical equation, Nerve Dating (an off-shoot of the sex/dating/culture site, Nerve.com), has incorporated social media conventions into their platform that allow soulmate searchers to create connections via interactive conversations, rather than simply writing essays, checking off endless lists, and hoping for the best.
We’ve tapped Nerve.com’s dating columnist Caitlin Robinson, AKA Miss Information, to offer some tips and tricks to those of you prepping to post your profile.
Each element working in sync, will support the other, together creating your overall Attractive Archetype. While rich language and outrageous words usually word best for Po F & Okcupid usernames, it's not always the right play. The first time I used their site was when they launched, way back in 1995!
For example, let's say the funniest username for Po F you've got is Photoshop Cowboy. But when it's actually on your profile, next to your lead dating photo, it might not jive at all. Particularly on a more serious or conservative dating site, like Christian Mingle, or On these platforms, I find that less outrageous dating site usernames play better to these types of women. Try a kinder, more relationshipy sounding username. These days, Match has settled into their place as the best platform for folks over 30 who are looking for serious relationships, but younger men can also find success on the site. So it's fairly important to choose a good name for this site, to tie together your overall profile.
Subtract major points for fuzzy/out of focus/mug shot/creepy head chopped in half, and even more for those that feature dirty laundry in the background, or ex-girlfriends not so cleverly cropped out of the frame.
Even taking all the aforementioned steps, Robinson notes that capturing the cute, pithy individual you are can be a daunting prospect.
[pagebreak] Miss Information tells us it can be truly mindboggling what red flags people slip into their profiles. Any hint of sad trombone will send quality dates running.” Give a critical eye to the potential profile shots, and think about the message they’re sending.