And they really don't have time to woo a woman or to like, you know, answer your phone calls.”Kitten doesn't like to think of it as getting paid for sex—she thinks of the sex as just something that happens naturally when two people spend time together.And she thinks of the money as a contribution a real boyfriend would make, just more.But technology has affected this mini-economy twofold: First, as with any Etsy shop, anyone with a good to sell can now easily intersect with someone who wants this good; and second, it has created a culture of righteous entitlement, in which a fringe thing feels mainstream when you find enough people who participate in it.
Kitten left home when she was 18 after a fight with her family over a boyfriend, and she wasn't welcome back, not even after the relationship ended. “They were talking shit about it, saying it wasn't a good thing to do.” But Kitten saw it differently; she saw a way out.
She wound up in a program for homeless youth and lived in a shelter. “I wondered how would my life be different if rather than leave a relationship with nothing, I left with more than I came into it with.” She signed up with Seeking Arrangement before she even left the shelter. She wants to become a choreographer, and the money has been really helpful.
On all these websites, the splash page features a beautiful young woman, elegant but with sideboob, and either she's overtly dangling a piece of jewelry or she is wearing it. Each time, a man, older, nearing silver status, is looking right at her, unable to take his rich, priapic eyes off her.
He has the beginnings of male-pattern baldness: baldness that says, “I've lived, I have money, here is a bracelet.” He is about to lean into her neck, maybe take a big old bite out of it, and she hangs back, only for a moment, only to tell us her secret, which is: “Look, I got a bracelet.”Everyone on Seeking Arrangement knows what they're there for, Thurston says.
Sometimes she gets a wad of money to go buy some clothing.
Other times, it's concert tickets with backstage passes.And he knows he got off easy with that woman; there are worse and more humiliating scams in the sugar-dating zip code than just losing a few hundred bucks.Back in October, Manhattan millionaire Paul Aronson, 85—85!What is so bad about formalizing the arrangement so that we can all just go home happy?And aside from that unpleasantness with that woman who scammed him, all Thurston had to wrestle with, really, was the nagging guilt that maybe this whole sugar-dating thing isn't so okay, particularly since he began before his divorce was even finalized. This felt like an ethical dilemma.” But he reminded himself that he was actually helping someone, a poor student, or someone who badly needed the money for, I don't know, medical bills or back taxes or vaping supplies.—was left tied to his coffee table for twenty hours by 17-year-old twins he met through Seeking Arrangement.