They know that if their partner were to discover these online interactions they would feel betrayed, hence the secrecy.These interactions may remain online always or the participants could meet up in real life (IRL).
However, it is also a cop out as people tend to revert to this to manage conflict or difficult conversations.
What it does do however is allow much more personal disclosure and sexual freedom especially for women who are now in an unregulated space online due to the feeling of safety, intimacy and privacy one feels one has on one’s mobile, and due to the immediacy of the chats, something called “hyper personal” intimacy develops.
Reassure your child that inappropriate behaviour from an adult is never their fault and that they can safely tell you if they encounter something that makes them uncomfortable. Make it clear which information they should never share online, which links they shouldn’t click on and how to identify spam and viruses. Place your family computer in a public place and install child protection software on it. Learn about the various online platforms your children are using.
If they are on Facebook, for instance, a condition should be that you are their Facebook friend. Report any potential child pornography that is sent to your child to the police. Remember that these considerations apply equally to the mobile phone.
Definitions of CI must be determined by each one – for example, if I like an ex’s post on Facebook, is that cheating? Social media has got us to question our traditional values of monogamy, commitment and sexual fidelity…
and that’s a really confusing and important conundrum for people right now.In addition, thanks to lack of advertising guidelines equivalent to those which exist in the offline world, these chat rooms were marketed and advertised on platforms easily accessible to children.These results highlight an alarming security risk for children It is inevitable that security frameworks lag technological development, but parents need to be aware of these dangers, and industry organisations and the government need to tighten up on out-dated regulations and legislation in order to protect South African children.Current legislation only places restrictions on chat rooms that are specifically targeted at children.Legislation is needed regarding the advertising of adult chat rooms and the measures required preventing children from accessing these. This room is for adults who want to meet or talk with those interested in sex chat.