If not, I can't help but believe this is borderline delusional, a mix of hyperbole and paranoia. I don't doubt that Ernest has experienced some pretty terrible reactions from people because he's dated white women.
The sentence would be funny if it weren't so dangerous. I don't deny that black women face some unique challenges. I'm sure people of all races and genders have contributed.
This week, we're publishing some of those responses as part of a conversation about race and relationships.
Does anyone ever really fall in love indiscriminately? And in the end, is it so bad for society to force you to think about these things?
It's hard to quiet your reflexes and poke around your internal contradictions.
What activates my attraction and what engages my love are probably influenced by a combination of things—my history and the histories of my family, static memory, insecurities, various cultural influences. Engage in a pattern for long enough, and "preference" seems like an inoffensive synonym for prerequisite. I'm loath to engage with it since doing so seems to give it unnecessary credence, but one line deserves particular shame.
On it's face, Ernest's article shouldn't have bothered me. "It's nothing to walk past a random black woman on the street and get a death glare and maybe even overhear something like, ' They're taking all of our men.'""It's nothing." Does Ernest keeps running into the same woman?
I've dated men my age, older men, athletes and politicians and writers, plus two guys who ended up serving time. But when it was time to talk titles or define the parameters, something usually held me back.
Athiests, Christians, one devout Muslim, and one closet Republican. I've been disassembling my relationship history over the past few weeks as I thought about Ernest's article.Discussing them requires me to be either disingenuous or hypocritical. One of our species' more tragic limitations is that we're better at understanding mass privilege than we are at imagining widespread struggle.Everyone can imagine what its like to be white in America, to have both institutional power and majority in numbers.Like, is dating white women still considered a "natural response" to one's "environment" even if he now lives in one of the most diverse cities in the world?How many white girls can one "fall in love with indiscriminately" until one admits that maybe he's not as indiscriminate as he thought?If you're looking for commonalities among my ex-boyfriends, you'll really only find one—they're all black. I disagreed with the major crux of his argument, and most of the minor ones, too.