When you don’t process the feedback or you do, but in spite of recognising that the guilt is misplaced you hold onto it like a security blanket, you don’t act, nothing changes, and you can end up undermining you.
Sometimes guilt doesn’t have a logical basis (like with the One False Move mentality) which is why you can feel a bit tormented when you can’t really see what you can do to relieve it, but you may just need to look at where the guilt is coming from.
Ma che cosa significa far parte del movimento chassidico?
There’s something you can learn here – if the things that you feel guilty about make you sound like you’ve been at the crack pipe or are things that other people expect as a part of treating themselves with love, care, trust, and respect, or are proud of, you definitely don’t need to be feeling guilty but you do need to get behind you.
Why the frick would you be feeling guilty about having a good job or earning really good money, or having friends or being talented?
That’s what guilt is there for – to remind us of who we are and our values, or to even show where we’re taking on too much blame and need to adjust our perspective. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
Guilt is not there as a paddle to whack yourself with and if you keep revisiting the guilt but not doing anything about it, you’ll end up obsessing which is a dangerous cocktail of blame, shame, and regret where you end up living in the past and trying to work out what you could have or can ‘prevent’ and then often doing things off the back of this rumination that only compounds your guilt. Whether it's figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.
You can’t keep saying that you feel guilty about, for example, an affair, if you’re not acting guilty and ending it.
I’ve heard people say “I feel so guilty that I can’t give him/her what they want” or “I feel so guilty for treating them badly…” only to go back and do exactly the same or even worse.It’s important to remember though, that guilt is about feeling remorseful due to feeling responsible for an offence caused.As a result of my work I’m constantly coming across people who are struggling with guilt.Afterwards we feel guilty for doing it which means being back to guilt square one.Experiencing guilt is where you soon find out whether you’re a ‘doer’ or a talker or even a brooder.Ophra Winfrey conduttrice del noto programma televisivo americano “Next Chapter” è riuscita ad entrare nella casa di una famiglia chassidica che vive a New York, quella di Rav Aron e di sua moglie Shterna Ginsberg, genitori di nove figli e di un decimo, in arrivo, che hanno accettato di parlare con lei, cogliendo l’occasione per mostrare il loro stile di vita e per parlare delle tradizioni e dei valori su cui poggia il loro vivere quotidiano.