Then he got up to get something to eat while I was on the "life story" question and just yelled for me to keep talking because he was listening.
I went into it with faith that it'd be a good thing and my spouse started scrolling on one question while I was talking (to see the next question).
If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. I believe that is best left to later in the relationship discussions.
Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's? How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..." 27. The one that stood out most was the question of which family member's death would disturb you most.
The questions were developed as part of a scientific study intended to establish that intimacy can be developed quickly.
What roles do love and affection play in your life? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. I think you'd need to pick and choose among these questions and see how the conversation went.
Someone who asks in a way I feel is invasive, demanding or not-listening still would not make me feel closer--again, whether it's this list of questions or any other.
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. It would depend on how the questions were asked and how our discussion of them went--if they ask in a genuinely interested, open-to-listening way, I'd feel closer, but I'd feel closer if they asked any questions in that way. I'm particularly curious because I recognise a kind of reticence in myself on articulating some things. For example, I am thinking of going through this exercise with a man I have known now for 15 months who tends to be reticent about talking about his past or feelings. So I know this is a month later, but I just happened on your article now - and actually I'm really interested to know whether you've done this with the man you mention, and if so, how it went? :( Dear Psychology Today: Thank you for this Facebook link, probably aimed at women between the age of 30-45, but I think we both know how completely irritated my husband (or any man) would be if I asked him any single one of these questions. So it didn't work for me and now I feel like we're doomed. It takes only 45 minutes and 36 questions to outwit mother nature!