Kantor suggests statements like, “The fact is, most people your age are not having sex.” Even as your daughter gains independence in some areas, when it comes to sex and dating you can and should stay involved. Don’t allow your daughter to spend a lot of unsupervised time with her boyfriend.
Make Your Values Clear, Then Listen to Her You might want your daughter to wait until she’s married.
You might think sex is OK after a certain age, or in the context of a loving, committed relationship.
“Parents play an important role in conveying their values,” says Kantor.
But before you tell your daughter exactly what she can or can’t do, understand there’s only so much you can control.
Before you decide to have sex or if you are already having sex, you need to know how to stay healthy. Having sex may affect the way you feel about yourself or how others feel about you. Half of all teens in the United States have never had sex. Plan ahead how you are going to say no so you are clearly understood. Nothing works perfectly to prevent STIs except abstinence (no sex).
Even if you think you know everything you need to know about sex, take a few minutes and read on. Many teens believe waiting until they are ready to have sex is important. For example, some teens may want to wait until they are older (adults); other teens may want to wait until they feel their relationship is ready. However, if you're going to have sex, using condoms is the best way to reduce the risk for getting STIs. Remember to use a latex condom every time you have sex—no matter what other type of birth control you and your partner might also use.
She might be relieved that she can use you as an excuse for saying no.
Admit That You Don’t Understand What if your daughter says you don’t understand the pressure she’s facing? As a mom, you can say, “I probably don’t understand.
Here are some forms of birth control (all types for females; condoms for males) from most effective to least effective at preventing pregnancy.