If he doesn't get the signs, or he ignores them completely, he is obviously not interested and not willing to take the initiative. But at the point when you stand all dressed up at your friend’s party and with no guy standing next to you, it can be quite frustrating.
And it is often in that moment that a question such as: ‘Why don’t guys approach me? And the truth is that sometimes it can be our fault, but it can theirs as well.
We will, of course, always encourage a woman who is strong, independent, and willing to use her mind. That’s why we asked around a bit, and here are some of their reasons. Nobody likes that feeling of being rejected, to be honest.
For guys, being rejected can be quite intimidating apparently (as if we are not dealing with the same thing when they say no to us, sheesh! But that most certainly does not mean that we should give up altogether. and if you, girls, ask yourself ‘Why don’t guys approach me? Yes, the guys actually offered this as their answer to our question. Apparently, looking ‘too good to be true’ can intimidate them.
And when approaching girls is in question, the situation can be even sillier.
Due to their (absence of) initiative, we girls sometimes even put ourselves in the situation where we start questioning many things considering our physical appearance, behavior, opinions, habits, etc.
If you know he’ll be at his favourite coffee place during his break, go and pick up a latte on your own, or in company of a friend you know will disappear in the ladies room when needed.
Encourage him with a subtle smile and in that way signal him that you are giving him a chance. Later in a relationship, when we look back, we think of these looks from a distance and smiles in a coffee shop as the cutest part starting a relationship; when it was all new and unpredictable.
Maybe I scared them, maybe they thought that I would be too much to handle.
Whatever the reason, I felt heartbroken and did question whether I was just "too much", whatever that really means.
If guys can see that you are open for interaction, and pleasant, they will have more courage to make a move and actually talk to you.