I mean, think of the badass male leading roles in movies and TV shows.These are guys that just take action and they don’t have to say how they feel because it’s clear through their heroic pursuit and protection of her.Being able to communicate with him will be easy if both you and him realize that you’re not trying to blame him or accuse him of wrongdoing.
They exchange witty banter and express themselves through words and action.
So women see one set of images of “ideal men” and men see a different set.
Again, most guys downplay this side of themselves or even are afraid to do it because they don’t want to come off as soft or weak.
If it’s really bothering you and you feel that he’s not getting the message, just tell him how you feel.
Sounds easy when I say it like that, but it takes constant vigilance to truly “see” other people and not project our own image of them over who they actually are. It sounds like you have a great relationship and that he probably would be happy to please you if he understood your experience and knew what you needed him to do.
So step 1 is realizing that it’s not that he’s doing anything wrong or intending to do anything wrong, he just doesn’t understand your experience yet.
I’ve always known that he’s not the romantic type but in the beginning of the relationship, he always used to say sweet things at unexpected times to give me butterflies, he used to take me out to romantic dinners, etc.
I feel like he’s just not putting as much of an effort anymore into being romantic.
So on a subliminal level, the message is communicated to guys that the badass guy who gets all the chicks is the guy who doesn’t need to say anything.
They also have gushing pussy-whipped characters that ooze with love and desperation, which communicates the message that weak, undesirable men are the ones that use words to express their interest and love. On the other hand, it’s the movies made for women that feature dialogue-heavy leading men who may be greedy and selfish, but always eventually articulate their feelings for the woman.
Guys want to be perceived as having abilities and skills.